Men and Sexuality

Guest: Ricky Chelette

Living Hope Ministries - livehope.org

For Valentine’s Day - no better topic than “sexuality”!!!

“Sexual Brokenness” - what is it, what to do about it?

Scripture tells us that we are all born into sin, all “broken” or “bent” away from God’s design in so many different ways! If our desires do not match up with God’s design, we have to subject our personal desires to God’s design if we want to be happy and holy!

Ricky - what do you believe about who you are and how you got here? Do you believe that you are only a group of cells brought together by random chance or an accident - or do you believe that you are a created, designed being - and that there is a Creator/Designer of all existence? 

Men and women are both created by God and have different roles and responsibilities - not less than or greater than, but different. To choose to not follow God’s design is to invite death, decay, and distance into your life and relationships.

How do I move from broken to better? Wrong question - we don’t move from broken to better by “doing.” We move from broken to better by “being.” The ultimate question really is: Who am I? When we know who we truly are and act in accordance with that true nature, we walk in authenticity to God’s design and protection.

Ricky - if you had a sister and she was going to marry a guy - who do you want that guy to be? That’s the guy that you ultimately know YOU need to be!

Ok - I get it, I see who I want to be - now what?

Ricky - you have to be:

• a “man of the Word” - that’s how God communicates to us, through His Word - to know how to do life well, you need to know the framework and narrative of God’s design and desires for our lives
• a person of integrity - the same person by myself, with a crowd, with a girl, at work, at play, etc…

It all starts with knowing God and knowing who He has created you to be.

Start with God’s Word. There is no alternative game plan.

Ricky - sex really isn’t about sex. It’s generally about connection, relationship, control, intimacy, power, etc. When you pursue “sex” as a act, you end up tired, frustrated, and empty. Be careful that if you pursue the fulfillment of your “sexual appetite,” you won’t fulfill what you really want!

Take-away: sexuality isn’t about doing, it’s about being. What kind of person do you want to be? You need to answer this question first.