Moving Through the Phases of Maturity

Guest: Dr. Steven Lytle, PsyD, Licensed Clinical Psychologist, Founding Partner of Sparrow House Counseling

 

Guys, the journey to manhood begins early in life. Moms are great at giving a foundation of unconditional love. Dads are great at giving encouragement to a young boy and calling him upward.

 

Great resource - Fathered by God by John Eldredge - a young man needs to go through some developmental phases of maturity:

 

• “Cowboy” phase - not a lot of wisdom, but a lot of energy. Separation individuation is an important process. You’re experimenting, and failing, and learning! Most important social influence is actually your parents - better to be connected to parents than peers! But your peers/friends are an important element in your development - so be wise in whom you allow to speak into your life.
• “Warrior” phase - the launching time for a young man, rules and accountability are set by you, not others. Learn to appreciate how God wired you. You don’t have to compare yourself to others who are designed for a different plan and purpose!

 

Another great resource - Love, Identity, and Purpose: Finding Purpose in Our Identity as God’s Children by Terry Moore

 

• “Lover” phase - the time to find your passion in life. This is the time you look for your wife to share your life and passion with. 
• “King” phase - now you’re the expert and are doing the work you’re called and equipped to do.
• “Sage” phase - this is the time that you’ve accumulated a lifetime of wisdom - now is the time to pass it on to others!

 

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Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.