Point Man Book Study (3 of 4)

Guests: Gabe Boyd and Michael Thornberry

 

Point Man: How a Man Can Lead His Family (Revised & Updated Version) by Steve Farrar

 

Chapter 6 Husband and Wife Teamwork in the Marriage Cockpit

 

Teamwork within marriage…

1. Mutual understanding of the Romo-Whitten Principle
2. Mutual accountability
3. Mutual submission

 

Man as a poor understanding of authority when…

• He lacks interest in his wife’s input and disregards her feelings
• He forbids the children to discuss his decisions
• He trusts few people
• He displays an intense need to control those closest to him

 

A mature man…

• Loves his wife sacrificially
• Loves his wife with understanding
• Loves his wife with verbal praise
• Encourages his wife to use her gifts

 

One way that some men keep from being mutually accountable is through intimidation.

 

Chapter 7 Restoring the Ancient Boundaries of Gender and Marriage

 

A child’s sexuality is at the very core of his identity.

 

In our culture, two things are being assumed…

1. Gender is not fixed; it is fluid
2. Marriage is not restricted to one man and one woman…

 

Genesis 1:27

1. Our maleness and femaleness is an essential part of our humanity as God has created us
2. It is good to be male and it is good to be female - because in either case, we bear the image of God
3. We have neither the right nor the power to change the sex that God has given us because it is a part of his created order

 

Chapter 8 How to Raise Masculine Sons and Feminine Daughters

 

“Men are generally more careful of the breed of their horses and dogs than of their children.”  William Penn

 

Ephesians 6:4 - Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

 

How can a father embitter this children:

• By overprotection
• By favoritism
• By discouragement
• By forgetting that a child is growing up, has a right to ideas of his own, and the need not to be an exact copy of his father
• By neglect
• By bitter words and outright physical cruelty

 

Fathers should raise their children with tenderness:

• Listen to them and respect their feelings
• If you have been wrong or too harsh, be man enough to confess and ask their forgiveness
• Listen to the input your wife gives you about each child
• Be “high touch” and dispense liberal doses of encouragement
• Consider them temperaments

 

Give your children the three A’s

Attention

Affection

Affirmation

 

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