The Value of Women in Helping to Shape Men

Guests: Tricia Panetti and Anna May

 

As women, what were the things you looked for in a man? Where did your “list” come from - who were the men in your life that demonstrated manhood to you? As a man, do you display those characteristics and if not, how do you plan to develop them?

1. A guy who is pursuing a strong and authentic relationship with Christ. Guys, if you’re not in the Word and around the family of God listening to the Word of God on a consistent basis, you’re not moving in the direction that godly women are looking for.
2. Fortitude. Women are looking for men with strong convictions and the spine to stand boldly on those convictions regardless of the winds of cultural change. Guys, what decisions have you made that are truly your convictions and will stick with them even if those decisions cost you?
3. Strong work ethic AND serving others. Guys, if you see yourself as a servant, you’re willing to put the needs of others ahead of your own. Do you find yourself always first in line for food or can you patiently wait until the end? Do you have to insert your opinion into the conversation or are you willing to listen and learn? Are you looking to do the dishes after dinner or taking out the garbage - not being asked to do these things, but serving others is second nature to you? 
4. Gentleman, manners, polite, treating others with respect, dignity, and kindness. Guys, do you see women as “more precious” and treat them with the respect and carefulness that they deserve - looking to protect and promote their interests - what’s best for them? Guys, remember, if a woman is physically attractive, but lacks character, she will “show” you what she has - and if all you see is her physical beauty, don’t assume that she has other important attributes like character and virtue!
5. Boundaries produce freedom! Guys, you need to lead a relationship by establishing proper boundaries, especially for the physical relationship. Guys, remember that as soon as you bring sex into your relationship, you set the ceiling on the emotional depth of your relationship - wait as long as possible, which is why God’s Word tells you not to “arouse and awaken love until it’s time” (Song of Solomon 2:7) (which means don’t have sex before the commitment of marriage).
6. Empathy. Women love a man who appreciates how others feel and takes into consideration the value that others bring to a relationship.
7. Communication. Guys, do you engage in meaningful conversation with a woman, asking questions, seeking to engage, listening well?
8. Humility. You’re never more like Christ than when you’re walking in humility. Guys, are you willing to grow and mature in your walk with the Lord and in your earthly relationships as well? If the seed of Christ isn’t in your life, the fruit of the Spirit won’t be evident in your attitude and actions.

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Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.