Training4Manhood

Building Better (and Biblical) Community

Let's learn from the story of Rehoboam's Folly...(1 Kings 12)

 

1. Cultivate the community of men you’re already in!
2. Listen to the wisdom of God that is available to you - through His Word and His people.
3. Pursue wisdom (deepen yourself)
   1. Connect your life with a wife who is walking with the Lord. The most attractive woman is one who loves the Lord!
   2. Actively pursue wisdom from older men who love the Lord.
   3. Take advantage of good books, podcasts, etc. from other godly men.

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

The Right Stuff (Being "Good" Isn't Good Enough)

 

US Birth rate 1.6

Young women are pursuing education instead of family - in part because there is an idea out there that men aren’t worth marrying…

 

What is the “right stuff” to be a good husband?

1. Good isn’t good enough - must be godly
   1. Right relationship with God…
      1. No man is in his right mind until he is right with God…
   2. Walk in the Spirit, not in the flesh
   3. Importance of knowing God’s Word…mirror and window…

 

1. Value of a Godly role model
   1. Watch how a person treats those “less than” himself - Matthew 25 principle…James 2 - no partiality, preference because of a person’s status or position…
   2. More is caught than taught
      1. Hard work, stewardship - the value of time and money
      2. Holding doors for ladies (others)
         1. Why?
            1. Demonstrates the value of the other person
            2. Uses your gifts and abilities (strength) to benefit others (not just about bettering yourself)
            3. Teaches patience
            4. Biblical principle - the first shall be last and the last shall be first - idea of servant leadership - Jesus came not to be served, but to serve…one simple way to serve others…
      3. The value of being “early”
         1. Again - demonstrates the value of others
         2. If you’re late, you can’t help out…things are already done…
         3. People can count on you - reliable…
      4. Importance of words
         1. Speak life into others…build up, not tear down
         2. David - prudent in speech…

 

1. Self-control (Titus 2)
   1. Psalm 16 - “pleasures” of God vs. pleasures of the world (Heb. 11:25 - fleeting pleasures of sin)
   2. Will power to say no - and let your yes be yes and your no be no
   3. Importance of discipline - David and Adonijah - never said “no”
   4. Connection to parents more important than connection to peers - Rehoboam…

 

1. Biblical perspective on women
   1. Helper - other than, not less than
   2. Cherish - husband means cultivator - she should be “better” with you
      1. 1 Peter 3 - “fine china”
   3. Love - what’s in her best interest

 

Men - sacrifice family for career - now women want to do that as well…

 

Children - quiver full of children is a blessing

• Importance of others ahead of yourself
• Dependence on God - not self-sufficiency, but God-reliance!

 

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Where Are the Older Men? (Importance of Marriage, Mentoring, and Maturity in the Development of a Man)

 

1. Importance of Marriage and Family - Purpose
2. Importance of Mentoring - Person
3. Importance of Maturity - Process

 

Titus 2:2

Older men are to be sober-minded, dignified, self-controlled, sound in faith, in love, in steadfastness.

 

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

The Gift of Discipleship

Guest: Adam Griffin, Lead Pastor at Eastside Community Church, Husband, Father, Author

 

Loved chatting with Adam Griffin - guys, he’s doing it right - take notes! He’s going to cover a lot of ground, hit on several different important aspects, so pay attention, lean in and listen, and then get up and get busy putting into action what you heard. Here are a few of his books that should be helpful as you desire to grow in your spiritual walk and help others along the way!

 

Family Discipleship: Leading Your Home Through Time, Moments, and Milestones by Matt Chandler and Adam Griffin

 

When Wrong Seems Right: A Kids Bible Study on Making Good Choices by Adam Griffin

 

The Boy Who Was Bold by Adam Griffin

 

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Psalm 144 - Training to Battle for Your Family

 

Psalm 144

Blessed be the Lord, my rock, who trains my hands for war, and my fingers for battle…

 

It is a battle against the world system to prioritize your spiritual and family life.

 

It is important to invest into your family…because a blessed nation is one filled with blessed families! What does a blessed family look like - David answers that question with verse 12:

 

May our sons in their youth be like plants full grown, our daughters like corner pillars cut for the structure of a palace.

 

Sons will be like plants full grown…or a well-manicured lawn.

 

Pruning is necessary - say no to them…and teach them self-control, the ability to say no themselves to things that aren’t in their best interest!

 

As young boys grow into godly men, they will be like “full grown plants” - trees that are straight and strong that offer protection and provision (fruitfulness) for others.

 

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Be Strong and Courageous - Understanding God's Purpose, Path, and Power for Your Life

 

In Joshua 1, God encourages Joshua three times with the phrase “be strong and courageous” - what did that mean for Joshua…and what does it mean for you today?

 

Be strong and courageous for…

Purpose - to advance the Kingdom of God, to inherit what God has for you

 

Be strong and very courageous, being careful to do…

Path - do not turn to the right or the left, stay on the path of God’s will for your life

 

Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.

Power - God is our power source - not your own strength…but His

 

Examining how this plays out in the life of David might help us better understand this concept.

 

David has a purpose - to battle against evil

David had a path - didn’t let the armor or discouragement of others dissuade him

David had God’s power - his faith in a mighty God

 

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

It All Starts with Taking the FIRST STEP!

I was up at Sky Ranch recently and had the opportunity to watch students take a “step of faith” off a 30 foot tree - harnessed up so that they wouldn’t fall - but still a pretty brave step to take…and it got me thinking that this physical picture of a step of faith is a good metaphor for our spiritual step of faith that each of us must decide to take…or not.

 

This also got me thinking about those who say that they have “walked away” from their faith - and how impossible that concept truly is. Christianity isn’t a set of principles, dos and don’ts - it is not a transaction that you can do…and undo. Christianity is transformational - Scripture compares it to being “reborn” - and when you take that step of faith, the Bible says that you are a “new creation” (2 Cor. 5:17) and the old things are dead…so you couldn’t go back even if you wanted to!

 

The good news is that taking this initial step of faith and surrendering your life to Christ transforms your mind - just like the physical transformation of a caterpillar to a butterfly, you are spiritually transformed. Pastor Tommy Nelson at Denton Bible often uses this little phrase to drive home the point that following principles and rules isn’t going to transform your life - but a relationship with Jesus Christ will:

 

"'Do this and live!' the law commands, but gives me neither feet nor hands. A better word the gospel brings, it bids me fly and gives me wings."

 

Guys, take the FIRST STEP of transformation from boyhood to manhood - and that step is placing your faith in Jesus Christ.

 

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Change Indicates Purpose: Don't Miss What God is Doing!

Getting ready for a puberty talk to 5th grade boys, the CHANGES that happen in our bodies got me to thinking about the PURPOSE for those changes - what is God preparing our bodies for…

• Work
• Women
• Worship
• World
• Wonder/Wisdom

 

Walk with me on this journey that looks at how creative God is at preparing us for the work that He has created for us to do (Ephesians 2:10) - but if we go through these life changes and never “spread our wings” and fly as the new creations in Christ, then we miss what God intended for us. Change indicates purpose. Don’t miss yours.

 

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

 

Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

God's Faithfulness on Your Journey (Part 2 of 2)

Guest: Dr. David Cobbs, PhD, is a Clinical Neuropsychologist in Dallas, TX

 

This is the second part of a meaningful and practical conversation with Dr. David Cobbs - he begins by sharing about the “mechanisms” that he’s put in place to draw closer to others and to God - some call these the “spiritual disciplines.” You need to put these practices in place not only to hold you accountable, but also so that you can look back and do some healthy self-evaluation so that you can do better moving forward!

 

If you’re a “Type A” personality - meaning that you’re driven - it means that you have that personality that could be successful in your spiritual and family life too…if those things are your priority! You have to make the commitment to prioritize the important things…and then follow through with those commitments.

 

If you haven’t been doing this in the past, NOW is the time to make the adjustment - and find people around you to help you and hold you accountable. Consistency is key. Also consider your Return on your Investment (ROI) - as you invest in others, seeds of connection and commitment are planted and you will reap the harvest of good relationships in the future.

 

Single guys - start putting these disciplines in your life and you’ll attract a spouse who sees these things as valuable and meaningful. It is critical to surround yourself with good friends who “spur you on to love and good deeds” (Hebrews 10:24). Start with getting your relationship with God “right” first…then all your other relationships will be dramatically affected by this foundational relationship.

 

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

God's Faithfulness on Your Journey (Part 1 of 2)

Guest: Dr. David Cobbs, PhD, is a Clinical Neuropsychologist in Dallas, TX

 

Loved hearing the story of David’s spiritual journey - how the power of POSITIVE peer pressure can help push you toward good things and keep you from bad things! David really started to grow in his spiritual life in high school - the younger you can get on the path of right living, the better off things will be in terms of living without regrets and disappointment!

 

True friends share life together. It’s good to have good friends and far too many men do not have quality friends around them. Remember, a good definition of a friend is someone who shares the most truth with you. How do you develop meaningful relationships with others - David will tell you that you have to be intentional about spending time together - as Dietrich Bonhoeffer wrote, “doing life together.”

 

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.