Training4Manhood

Battle for Manhood Starts in the Home

Guest: Dan Panetti

 

The American Conservative

Male Malaise Is Not Just About ‘the Culture’

Big Business and Big Education have a hand in our boys’ failure to thrive.

 

The businesses that are attacking our boys - screens - video games and porn

 

Response to issues:

1. Screens - video games and porn - address, limit…take responsibility for their negative impact - this is first and foremost a parenting issue…but if parents are not going to step in and provide guidelines and limits, then you as the young man wanting to mature and be successful have to do it yourself…
2. Education - going to have to learn to play the game…read, study, don’t take short cuts, don’t be stupid in class…

 

Psalm 144:12

That our sons may be as plants grown up in their youth; that our daughters may be as corner stones, polished after the similitude of a palace.

 

Success in the home needs to be the top priority of the children of God!

 

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Parenting by Paul David Tripp (Session 4 of 4)

Guests: Nick Bellamy and Johnny Farr

 

Chapter 11 False Gods

Principle: You are parenting a worshiper, so it’s important to remember that what rules your child’s heart will control his behavior.

 

WORSHIP - everything your child has ever said or done is rooted in worship. Worship is that inner desire for wonder, amazement, and awe that every human being possesses. It is that craving to be fulfilled. It is that constant search for life. It is wanting personal meaning and purpose. It’s that universal hunger for inner peace.

 

Your kids were made for God. The capacity of your children to worship is the most important biblical insight for parents. Since your children are worshipers, a vital skill for you is to learn how to lead them to confession. To say your children are worshipers means you have no power to free them from their biggest problem. Because your children are worshipers, your only hope for them is the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ.

 

Chapter 12 Control

Principle: The goal of parenting is not control of behavior, but rather heart and life change.

 

Psalm 51

Your children need to see their sin, so they’ll cry out for God’s mercy.

Your children need to understand the nature of sin, so they don’t minimize its danger

Your children need to understand that their problem is not with their parents, but with God

Your children need to understand that sin is a nature problem that produces behavior problems

Your children need to understand that since sin is a heart problem, the only solution is a new heart

Your children need to be taught to run to the only place of hope: the forgiving grace of God

 

Chapter 13 Rest

Principle: It is only rest in God’s presence and grace that will make you a joyful and patient parent.

 

Your job is to do everything within your power, as an instrument in the hands of the Redeemer who has employed you, to woo, encourage, call, and train your children to willingly and joyfully live as disciples of the Lord Jesus Christ.

 

It’s not enough to tell your children what to do and what not to do. This passage calls every parent to a deeper goal. You must teach your children how to think about everything in a way that is pointedly God-centered.

 

Chapter 14 Mercy

Principle: No parent gives mercy better than one who is convinced that he desperately needs it himself.

 

Parenting is about being God’s ambassadors in the lives of our children.

Mercy is parenting with a tender heart.

Look for every opportunity to shower your children with grace.

Be careful to help your children see the heart behind behavior.

Remind your heart each morning to rest in the presence and power of your heavenly Father.

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Moving Toward Maturity as a Man

Guest: Nick Bellamy

 

Titus 2:2 - Older men are to be sober-minded, dignified, self-controlled, sound in faith, in love, and in steadfastness.

 

What do each of these characteristics mean…and how can you grow and mature in each of them?

 

Sober-minded - sensible, set apart, temperate, vigilant, meekness

• When you set your mind on God’s purpose, you can more easily battle against the temptations of the world/flesh that seek to distract and discourage you.

 

Dignified - to make worthy, venerable, honorable, grave, serious

• 1 Peter says that we are “royalty” - But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light. 1 Peter 2:9

 

Self-controlled - safe in mind

• Young men start with self-control, but it’s a much needed character trait for all of life!

 

Sound in faith - sound means to have health, to be uncorrupted

• We want to be godly, not good. There is a difference!

 

Sound in love

• What do you love? Are the things that you love the things that God loves?
• Incredibles - “I am your wife. I am the greatest good you’re ever going to get!” Men, remember that - invest in your marriage, cherish your wife.

 

Sound in steadfastness - endurance, patient, cheerful, constancy

 

Send an email with these six characteristics to your friends and ask them to evaluate your progress in each!

 

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Parenting by Paul David Tripp (Session 3 of 4)

Guests: Nick Bellamy and Johnny Farr

 

Chapter 8 Authority

Principle: One of the foundational heart issues in the life of every child is authority. Teaching and modeling the protective beauty of authority is one of the foundations of good parenting.

 

It’s important to always keep in mind that as a parent you are never just dealing with the words and actions of your children. You are always also dealing with the thing that shapes, directions, and controls the behavior of your children: the heart.

 

Sin makes us want our own way. Sin convinces all of us that we know better.

 

Mom and Dad, you have no ability at all–by the tone of your voice, by the force of your personality, by your physical size, or by your threats–to deliver your children from their addiction to self-rule.

 

But Jesus does have the power.

 

What is obedience? It’s a willing submission of my heart to the authorities that God has placed in my life.

 

Do you humbly own the rebellion of your own heart as you deal with the rebellion of your children in a way that causes you to exercise authority with patience and grace?

 

Chapter 9 Foolishness

Principle: The foolishness inside your children is more dangerous to them than the temptation outside of them. Only God’s grace has the power to rescue fools.

 

Your children disobey because of the pride, rebellion, autonomy, self-sufficiency, and desire for self-rule that control their hearts.

 

If the heart of your child does not change, his behavior won’t change for very long.

 

Proverbs 22:15 - “Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.”  Foolishness - the propensity of our children to live as if God doesn’t exist.

Chapter 10 Character

Principle: Not all of the wrong your children do is a direct rebellion to authority; much of the wrong is the result of a lack of character.

 

It’s not enough to just emphasize the beauty of submission to authority. You must also emphasize the need for character development.

 

Your children don’t so much need character management as they need worship realignment.

 

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Transformation Happens Through Relationships

Guest: Clint Davis, M.S., LPC, CSAT, CCTP, EMDR Provider, Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist

 

Clint Davis Counseling

ClintDavisCounseling@gmail.com

318-562-6903

Clint Davis Asking Why podcast

 

Check out Clint’s new book: Building Better Bridges: A Guidebook to Having Difficult Conversations That Can Save Our Children

 

Transformation happens through relationships.

 

When sex is introduced into a relationship, the “emotional ceiling” is set in that relationship - meaning that the relationship is incapable of growing deeper beyond that point.

 

As men, we should lead in relationships by desiring what is best for the other person - respecting them, protecting them, honoring them, cherishing them - even if no one else is.

 

One of the fruits of the Spirit is self-control. Not that you’ll be able to “control” everything; but you, empowered by the Holy Spirit, can control your thoughts. Walking in the Spirit is life, walking by the flesh is death.

 

Purity isn’t about your works and actions, it’s about how God sees you through the lens of His Son - redeemed, made new, family!

 

When we want our spouse to fill the eternal void in our lives, we crush them under the weight of eternity. But when Christ fills that void, then we are able to love another with the power of Christ.

 

Biblical living actually works - walk in His truth not only for your own benefit, but so that others can see the truth and be set free from the lies of this world!

 

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

 

Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Parenting by Paul David Tripp (Session 2 of 4)

Guests: Nick Bellamy and Johnny Farr

 

Chapter 4 Inability

Principle: Recognizing what you are unable to do is essential to good parenting.

 

It is vital that you believe and admit that you have no power whatsoever to change your child.

 

Parenting is not about exercising power for change in your children. Parenting is about your humble faithfulness in being willing to participate in God’s work of change for the sake of your children.

 

Parents, here’s what you need to understand: God has given you the authority for the work of change, but has not granted you the power to make that change happen.

 

Chapter 5 Identity

Principle: If you are not resting as a parent in your identity in Christ, you will look for identity in your children.

 

If you are not resting in your vertical identity, you will look horizontally, searching to find yourself and your reason for living in something in creation.

 

How do you know if you’re putting your identity on the shoulders of your children?

1. Too much focus on success.
2. Too much concern about reputation.
3. Too great a desire for control.
4. Too much emphasis on doing rather than being.
5. Too much temptation to make it personal.

 

Chapter 6 Process

Principle: You must be committed as a parent to long-view parenting because change is a process and not an event.

 

Parenting is not a series of dramatic confrontation-confession events, but rather a life-long process of incremental awareness and progressive change.

 

The Bible states very clearly that one of the most dangerous aspects of sin, which all parents deal with personally and which all parents deal with in their children, is the fact that sin blinds.

 

What, by God’s grace, is clear to you is not clear to them. What seems obvious to you is not obvious to them.

 

Spiritually blind people are blind to their blindness.

 

Chapter 7 Lost

Principle: As a parent you’re not dealing just with bad behavior, but a condition that causes bad behavior.

 

Our children are not just disobedient; they are disobedient because they are lost.

 

Two big lies ever lost child believes:

1. The first lie is the lie of autonomy. What this lie says is that I am a completely independent human being, and because I am, I have the right to live my life any way I choose to live it. It is the belief that my life belongs to me and that I should be able to do whatever I want with my life to make me happy. Part of this lie is the belief that no one should tell me what to do.

 

1. The second lie is equally dangerous. It is the life of self-sufficiency. This lie tells your child that he has everything he needs inside himself to be what he needs to be and to do what he needs to do. He doesn’t need your help, rescue, instruction, wisdom, or correction.

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Training for Success in Marriage & Family

Guest: Chris Sherrod, Marriage and Family Director, Watermark Community Church, Dallas, TX

What is the “state of marriage” in America?

• Over the past 50 years, the marriage rate has dropped by almost 60%
• The number of women entering their first marriage between the ages of 40 and 59 has jumped 75% in 1990

Men, how can you be “successful” in your marriage and leading your family?

1. OYOG - Own Your Own Growth. Leading your family starts with your own spiritual growth and maturity! You can’t teach what you don’t know; you can’t pass on what you don’t have. Oxygen mask example - put yours on first! The fruit of godliness starts with the seed of godliness being planted in you first. If something is important, you make time for it; if it’s not important, you make excuses.
2. Leading means “encouraging faith in their heart.” You need to know what encourages faith in your wife and children. Leadership isn’t just a one-way street, you need to learn to ask questions…Jesus asked more questions than He answered!
3. Ephesians 5 concept - love, serve, and lead. God wants your dependence, not your performance. Love your wife unconditionally, as Christ loved the church (sacrificially). This is a daily opportunity! Take the initiative to “wash her with the Word” - whatever that looks like for you, look for opportunities to engage each other with the Word of God!
4. Great question to ask: “How can I be praying for you?”
5. Deut. 6 - “teach your children” from a Biblical perspective means to “sharpen them.” When can you do this? Find windows of opportunities - in the morning, at dinner, when you put them to bed, etc. Great resource for this is Habits of the Household: Practicing the Story of God in Everyday Family Rhythms by Justin Whitmel Earley.
6. Create a place in your home that has your “Ebenezer stones of remembrance” - symbols of God’s goodness and provision in the history of your life and family - and go back and tell the stories of what God has done for you to your kids and grandkids (see Psalm 78).

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Parenting by Paul David Tripp (Session 1 of 4)

Guests: Nick Bellamy and Johnny Farr

 

Introduction

Good parenting, which does what God intends it to do, begins with this radical and humbling recognition that our children don’t actually belong to us.

 

Good parents don’t always produce good kids, and parents should constantly be asking themselves where they get the set of values that tell them whether they have “good” kids or not.

 

Chapter 1 Calling

Principle: Nothing is more important in your life than being one of God’s tools to form a human soul.

 

How has the value of career success impacted your commitment to the work that God has called you to as parents?

 

• Your Life…Well Spent: The Eternal Rewards of Investing Yourself and Your Money in Your Family by Russ Crosson

 

Your work as a parent is a thing of extreme value because God has designed that you would be a principal, consistent, and faithful tool in his hands for the purpose of creating God-consciousness and God-submission in your children.

 

Your kids will never be what they’re supposed to be or do if they lack God-consciousness.

 

Chapter 2 Grace

Principle: God never calls you to a task without giving you what you need to do it. He never sends you without going with you.

 

No child really wants to be parents by parents who think that they’re able. “Able” parents tend to be proud and self-assured parents.

 

And “able” parents tend to want their children to be trophies, a public demonstration of their ability.

 

God’s greatest and most wonderful gift to you as a parent is himself! He knows how hard your task is. 

 

Here’s the humbling conclusion that God, in grace, led me to: I am more like my children than unlike them - and so are you!

 

Chapter 3 Law

Principle: Your children need God’s law, but you cannot ask the law to do what only grace can accomplish.

 

If rules and regulations had the power to change the heart and life of your child, rescuing your child from himself and giving him a heart of submission and faith, Jesus would have never needed to come!

 

A child who does not see himself clearly will resist his parents’ wisdom, guidance, discipline, and correction. Why? Because he doesn’t think he needs it.

 

It’s not our children’s sin that is in the way of good parenting; it’s our tendency to make parenting about our little kingdom of wants, needs, and desires, and our tendency to want our children to serve the purposes of our kingdom rather than submit to the purposes of God’s kingdom.

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

The Building Blocks of Our Country’s Greatness

Guest: Mike Johnson, Congressman from District 4, Louisiana and newly elected Speaker of the House of Representatives

 

Guys, I’m replaying an episode that I record with Congressman Mike Johnson about a year ago - he’s sharing his Seven Core Principles of Conservatism and I want you to know what an incredible godly man Mike is and listen to him speak about the guiding principles that helped shape our nation into the great country it is today! Join me in praying for Mike and his wife Kelly and their children as Mike takes the mantle of leadership in the House. Also find Mike’s podcast Telling the Truth if you want to listen to a great podcast about government from a biblical perspective!

 

Seven Core Principles of Conservatism

• Individual Freedom

1. 1. 1. Individual liberties should be protected against the imposition of government intrusion - life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness
      2. Purpose of Government is to secure our God-given rights

• Limited Government

1. 1. 1. When government expands, liberty contracts
      2. Legitimate government exists only by the consent of the governed
      3. The Constitution provides important safeguards - separation of powers, federalism, etc..
      4. Best protection against government largesse - involved and informed electorate

• Rule of Law

1. 1. 1. No king above the law, everyone subject to the law
      2. Law must be implied partially and fairly to everyone
      3. Each branch of government must perform their function, but not overstep its boundary

• Peace through Strength

1. 1. 1. Provide for the common defense - citizens, property, interests abroad…part of the Preamble of the Constitution
      2. Must remain the strongest power
      3. National security includes border security

• Fiscal Responsibility

1. 1. 1. Most significant threat to national security - our national debt

• Free Markets

1. 1. 1. Allows for innovation and expansion - gives people the liberty to take risks and pursue their dreams
      2. Competition should be encouraged
      3. People and the private sector outperform government every time

• Human Dignity

1. 1. Everyone created in the image of God and has intrinsic value
   2. People should be measured by the content of their character
   3. Hard work should be the pathway out of public assistance
   4. Protect the life of the unborn - from womb to tomb

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

The Blessing of Making Disciples for Christ

Guest: Trog Trogdon, Kingdom Focus Coaching

Email: info@kingdomfocus.life

 

Trog - if you had a Ferrari in the garage, would you be content with reading the manual or would you rather drive it?! The walk of obedience, with God, is better and more exciting than driving the Ferrari!

 

5 Question Method of Discipleship

1. Bible study - what passage of Scripture have you been memorizing or meditating on this week?
2. Bible Reading Plan & Study Material - what questions or thoughts do you have from your Bible reading time this week?
3. Prayer & Journaling - what else has the Holy Spirit been speaking to you during your quiet time with him?
4. Serving Others - how have you loved or served your neighbor this week (and what impact did it have on you)?
5. Sharing the Gospel - how have you shared your faith in Christ this week or planted gospel seeds?

 

First three questions are about the development of your inward men, the others are about building community and impacting the world around you!

 

Know…where you are in your walk with Christ.

Grow…in Him.

Go…teach others.

 

Trog - You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink. Yes, but I can salt the oats and walk him on a hot day!!!

Trog - if you really want to experience God, go and make disciples (Francis Chan).

 

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.