Training4Manhood

Starting Off the Year with the Right Focus

Guests: Preston Panetti, Parker Panetti, and Campbell Panetti

 

The boys and I attended CrossCon2024 and wanted to share with you some highlights and encourage you to start off your year with a spiritual emphasis and focus!

 

Good resources:

Don’t Waste Your Life - John Piper

Serious Times - James Emery White

A Serious Call to a Devout and Holy Life - William Law (Ty Olson favorite)

The Cost of Discipleship - Dietrich Bonhoeffer

 

Word of the Year 2024

• Dan - Hallelujah (Praise the Lord)
• Preston - Accountability
• Parker - Consistency
• Campbell - Steadfast
• Others - #1 response this year from people - “Joy”

 

Jeff’s Donuts

 

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Word of the Year 2024: Hallelujah (Praise the Lord)

Host: Dan Panetti

 

Setting the right tone for 2024…

 

Great verse to help you set goals for the year - Luke 2:52 - Jesus grew in wisdom, stature, and in favor with God and with man

 

Wisdom - mental and emotional growth

• Mental - mind - what are you reading, how are you growing in this area?
• Emotions - what do you need to work on to get better this year?

 

Stature

• Body - what areas can you improve on with your overall health and well-being?

 

Favor with God

• Read the Bible, spend time with God, memorize and meditate on Scripture

 

Favor with man

• Relationships
  • Marriage
  • Kids
  • Friendships
  • Work
  • Community - this is an election year - get out there and make your community better!

 

Word for 2024

I’m excited to announce my word for 2024 - Hallelujah, which means Praise the Lord.

 

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Merry Christmas 2023

Host: Dan Panetti

 

Chronicles of Narnia - The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe by CS Lewis

It’s always winter, but never Christmas…

 

The Hunger Games - how did President Snow go bad?

 

God revealed His plan of redemption and restoration in the Garden, immediately following man’s sin - see Genesis 3:15

 

The Old Testament of Scripture is FILLED with so many prophecies about the coming Messiah so that man wouldn’t miss the incredible gift that God was sending for us - some of the most important of those prophecies are found in the Book of Isaiah in chapters 7, 9, and 53. The prophecy that the Messiah would be born in the “little town of Bethlehem” is found in Micah 5:2.

 

The genealogy of Jesus, the one born of a virgin in the town of Bethlehem, is found in Matthew 1:1-17. Jesus is a descendent of Abraham, the father of the promised nation of spiritual children, and David, the symbol of the king.

 

In Matthew 1:3, Jesus is said to be a descendent of “Judah the father of Perez and Zerah by Tamar” - the twins Perez and Zerah are both mentioned in the lineage of Jesus, but for what reason - because Jesus isn’t just coming once, but twice - and both Perez and Zerah give us insight into what we should be looking for - first, one who “burst forth,” the unexpected one from insignificance; the second, bearing the scarlet thread on his body.

 

Christmas - everything points to Jesus…

 

Christmas tree - gifts at the bottom - and it points to the heavens…with a STAR on top - reminds me of Numbers 24 - Balaam’s final oracle - verse 17 - I see him, but not now; I behold him, but not near: a star shall come out of Jacob, and a scepter shall rise out of Israel…

 

O Holy Night, song by Adolphe Adam

 

O Holy night! The stars are brightly shining

It is the night of the dear Savior's birth

Long lay the world in sin and error pining

'Til He appeared, and the soul felt its worth

A thrill of hope, the weary world rejoices

For yonder breaks a new and glorious morn'

 

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Suffering Removes Shallowness: Seeing God’s Goodness in the Midst of Your Pain

Guests: Bruce and Chris Curran

 

Above all else, guard your heart, for from it comes the wellspring of life. Proverbs 4:23

 

You can tell the condition of a marriage by watching/listening to the wife.

 

Suffering removes shallowness. If you want to go deep with God, you’re going to have to go through difficult times. Tough times produce dependent people - people willing to lean not on their own understanding, but in all their ways they learn to submit to God and trust His goodness and plans - see Proverbs 3:5.

 

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28 Maybe some of the difficult things you’re going through are going to be used by God for a greater purpose - His purpose - not only in your life, but in the lives of others, to expand the Kingdom of heaven!

 

Some trust in chariots and some in horses [and some in doctors], but we trust in the name of the Lord our God. Psalm 20:7 Who will you put your trust in - your business, your health, your education, your past accomplishments…or will you put your trust in the One who created the heavens and the earth and holds all things in His hands?

 

As they get older, Bruce and Chris have learned to care about “less and less” - God is concerned about people - what are your primary concerns? And sometimes you have to “go 30 miles in” before you see it - you have to go deeper.

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Walking in the Forgiveness AND Freedom from Sin

Guest: John Elmore, Teaching Pastor, Watermark Community Church

 

John - the idea of sin and struggle is the most requested conversation - people have forgiveness from sin, but not freedom. God wants to redeem, reengineer, and repurpose your past for His purposes and glory!

 

John - the most used thing in his life to share the gospel is how God redeemed him from his past - your mess can become His message!

 

How do I get free?

1. For the unbeliever, freedom starts with surrendering your life to Christ and accepting the free gift of salvation by grace through faith. Sin is a supernatural problem and demands a supernatural solution!
2. Making the commitment by the power of the Holy Spirit to walk in the freedom that Christ earned for you one day at a time. A lifetime of freedom is made up of days of freedom, one after another. Galatians 5:16 - But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh.
3. Repentance is a continual, ongoing surrender to the Lord. You need to ACT. Ask God daily for help - the Holy Spirit is the “sin killer,” this is the negative work of the Spirit - the Holy Spirit negates bad fruit in your life. Commit to the pursuit of holiness. Daily encouragement is the key to battle against sin in your life - there are no neutral days - you are either moving toward holiness or away from it! Talk/Text about your journey with another person who is standing in the gap praying for you and encouraging you.

 

John - leaders go first or others may never - if you want to walk in the light and have fellowship with one another, you need to lead others by your example!

 

John - today is the day of your salvation and freedom from sin. Text a brother in Christ and begin this daily commitment to walking in the forgiveness AND freedom from sin!

 

Resources

• Freedom Starts Today: Overcoming Struggles and Addictions One Day at a Time by John Elmore, 2021
• The Mortification of Sin: Dealing with Sin in Your Life by John Owen (1616-1683)

 

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

 

Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Christian Warrior: Be the Hero in Your Home

Guest: Cort Quigley

 

Christianity doesn't make a man soft, it transforms him into the image of Jesus - THE man’s Man, the sinless Man, the Man who laid down His life for the sins of others.

 

Men - don’t be afraid to seek help - if you see someone who has what you want, do what they did - mentorship/discipleship is about finding men who are walking the walk and learning from them. Godly men help build godly men.

 

Men - you ARE leaving a legacy - and it’s either a positive one or a negative one - for your work AND your family!

 

Video games - being the hero in a game isn’t the same as being a hero for those you love!

 

Comparison is the thief of joy…be careful comparing yourself to others…

 

Friends are the men that call you to the carpet, expect more from you, want better for you, even than themselves! The only way you can get to the point where you’re willing to help others, even if it costs you, is to be transformed by the power of Jesus who modeled this ideal with His life and can empower you with His grace and love!

 

Marriage is a 100/0 covenant - you are going to love your wife no matter what…and she covenants to love you no matter what - it’s not a 50/50 agreement where you serve because you’ve been served.

 

Men - be the guy who cares about the lives of others - but, if you can also meet others where they’re at, if they need a friend who listens, be that friend.

 

Men - doing hard things is just part of life - if you can do some hard physical things, you can do some hard spiritual things!

 

Men - great perspective on the “stuff of this world” - if God gives it to you, you’re supposed to use it for His glory - more stuff = more glory for Him - is that your perspective on things?!

 

Men - it doesn’t matter where you came from, it matters what God thinks of you and where He can take you as you walk in obedience with Him!

 

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Battle for Manhood Starts in the Home

Guest: Dan Panetti

 

The American Conservative

Male Malaise Is Not Just About ‘the Culture’

Big Business and Big Education have a hand in our boys’ failure to thrive.

 

The businesses that are attacking our boys - screens - video games and porn

 

Response to issues:

1. Screens - video games and porn - address, limit…take responsibility for their negative impact - this is first and foremost a parenting issue…but if parents are not going to step in and provide guidelines and limits, then you as the young man wanting to mature and be successful have to do it yourself…
2. Education - going to have to learn to play the game…read, study, don’t take short cuts, don’t be stupid in class…

 

Psalm 144:12

That our sons may be as plants grown up in their youth; that our daughters may be as corner stones, polished after the similitude of a palace.

 

Success in the home needs to be the top priority of the children of God!

 

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Parenting by Paul David Tripp (Session 4 of 4)

Guests: Nick Bellamy and Johnny Farr

 

Chapter 11 False Gods

Principle: You are parenting a worshiper, so it’s important to remember that what rules your child’s heart will control his behavior.

 

WORSHIP - everything your child has ever said or done is rooted in worship. Worship is that inner desire for wonder, amazement, and awe that every human being possesses. It is that craving to be fulfilled. It is that constant search for life. It is wanting personal meaning and purpose. It’s that universal hunger for inner peace.

 

Your kids were made for God. The capacity of your children to worship is the most important biblical insight for parents. Since your children are worshipers, a vital skill for you is to learn how to lead them to confession. To say your children are worshipers means you have no power to free them from their biggest problem. Because your children are worshipers, your only hope for them is the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ.

 

Chapter 12 Control

Principle: The goal of parenting is not control of behavior, but rather heart and life change.

 

Psalm 51

Your children need to see their sin, so they’ll cry out for God’s mercy.

Your children need to understand the nature of sin, so they don’t minimize its danger

Your children need to understand that their problem is not with their parents, but with God

Your children need to understand that sin is a nature problem that produces behavior problems

Your children need to understand that since sin is a heart problem, the only solution is a new heart

Your children need to be taught to run to the only place of hope: the forgiving grace of God

 

Chapter 13 Rest

Principle: It is only rest in God’s presence and grace that will make you a joyful and patient parent.

 

Your job is to do everything within your power, as an instrument in the hands of the Redeemer who has employed you, to woo, encourage, call, and train your children to willingly and joyfully live as disciples of the Lord Jesus Christ.

 

It’s not enough to tell your children what to do and what not to do. This passage calls every parent to a deeper goal. You must teach your children how to think about everything in a way that is pointedly God-centered.

 

Chapter 14 Mercy

Principle: No parent gives mercy better than one who is convinced that he desperately needs it himself.

 

Parenting is about being God’s ambassadors in the lives of our children.

Mercy is parenting with a tender heart.

Look for every opportunity to shower your children with grace.

Be careful to help your children see the heart behind behavior.

Remind your heart each morning to rest in the presence and power of your heavenly Father.

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Moving Toward Maturity as a Man

Guest: Nick Bellamy

 

Titus 2:2 - Older men are to be sober-minded, dignified, self-controlled, sound in faith, in love, and in steadfastness.

 

What do each of these characteristics mean…and how can you grow and mature in each of them?

 

Sober-minded - sensible, set apart, temperate, vigilant, meekness

• When you set your mind on God’s purpose, you can more easily battle against the temptations of the world/flesh that seek to distract and discourage you.

 

Dignified - to make worthy, venerable, honorable, grave, serious

• 1 Peter says that we are “royalty” - But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light. 1 Peter 2:9

 

Self-controlled - safe in mind

• Young men start with self-control, but it’s a much needed character trait for all of life!

 

Sound in faith - sound means to have health, to be uncorrupted

• We want to be godly, not good. There is a difference!

 

Sound in love

• What do you love? Are the things that you love the things that God loves?
• Incredibles - “I am your wife. I am the greatest good you’re ever going to get!” Men, remember that - invest in your marriage, cherish your wife.

 

Sound in steadfastness - endurance, patient, cheerful, constancy

 

Send an email with these six characteristics to your friends and ask them to evaluate your progress in each!

 

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Parenting by Paul David Tripp (Session 3 of 4)

Guests: Nick Bellamy and Johnny Farr

 

Chapter 8 Authority

Principle: One of the foundational heart issues in the life of every child is authority. Teaching and modeling the protective beauty of authority is one of the foundations of good parenting.

 

It’s important to always keep in mind that as a parent you are never just dealing with the words and actions of your children. You are always also dealing with the thing that shapes, directions, and controls the behavior of your children: the heart.

 

Sin makes us want our own way. Sin convinces all of us that we know better.

 

Mom and Dad, you have no ability at all–by the tone of your voice, by the force of your personality, by your physical size, or by your threats–to deliver your children from their addiction to self-rule.

 

But Jesus does have the power.

 

What is obedience? It’s a willing submission of my heart to the authorities that God has placed in my life.

 

Do you humbly own the rebellion of your own heart as you deal with the rebellion of your children in a way that causes you to exercise authority with patience and grace?

 

Chapter 9 Foolishness

Principle: The foolishness inside your children is more dangerous to them than the temptation outside of them. Only God’s grace has the power to rescue fools.

 

Your children disobey because of the pride, rebellion, autonomy, self-sufficiency, and desire for self-rule that control their hearts.

 

If the heart of your child does not change, his behavior won’t change for very long.

 

Proverbs 22:15 - “Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.”  Foolishness - the propensity of our children to live as if God doesn’t exist.

Chapter 10 Character

Principle: Not all of the wrong your children do is a direct rebellion to authority; much of the wrong is the result of a lack of character.

 

It’s not enough to just emphasize the beauty of submission to authority. You must also emphasize the need for character development.

 

Your children don’t so much need character management as they need worship realignment.

 

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.